The Easiest Way To Stop Sabotaging Your Future
The Easiest Way To Stop Sabotaging Your Future
Learn more from Dr. K in his Guide to Mental Health: https://bit.ly/43fxCxy
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00:09 – Dreams can create a strain on us
01:12 – Understanding addictions
02:40 – Making amends
04:00 – The RAM of our brain
05:47 – How does this connect to our dreams
08:16 – Unburdening your mind
11:50 – The 1-5-20 Rule
14:46 – Making progress towards your goals
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Guys, please help lol
I am having so much difficulty eliminating dreams off the list! I have, like, 100 bullets… Is there a video Dr.K has that might help me with this??? Or any advice guys?
One of the best videos I have ever watched. The funny thing is that this is exactly what I have been doing recently. Writing things off my imaginary to-do list of dreams. And I have started feeling so well. And I have found myself doing things that I had been putting off. Now I understand why. Thank you Dr K. I wish I had known you 20 years ago.
You gave me freedom. I can literally feel your words and ideas soothe my mind which was muddled with unachievable dreams. I feel peace now❤
Is there an emotional equivalent to a cognitive load, or is our capacity for processing emotions a cognitive exercise too? I’m asking to determine if the healing journey is a single, cognitive modality or if emotional healing is a separate and different healing pathway.
14:00 It did feel like that but so relief.
Perfect timing lol I’ve got so many projects I keep trying to do them all, but it’s just too much
Literally gold. Thank you!
I need to download more ram for my brain
I Termed this
"the Anakin Skywalker Approach"
Realizing half my Dreams were due to Traumas and Not even related to the Things I Enjoy or want to Pursue.
Lost A Kid and Countless Relationships because I Was so busy Looking to the Horizon I couldn’t see where I Stood.
By the end of it I wasn’t even focusing on those Dreams whether True Desires or Not I just wanted the Sum Total of Power & Control and became more Miserable until people around me were straight up Afraid of Me.
I’ve got a lot of work to do and don’t even know who I am or what I want at this point.
This Video is Beyond Helpful to the Path I now find myself on and I am beyond grateful for it 🙏
see but the thing is, i understand the part of checking it off, but how to cross off stuff.
are you for SATAN?!
Thank you so much, Dr. K!
My one true goal is to die with no regrets, no regrets and thinking about what could have been and instead just being content with how things have gone. I want to transition, i want go to college, i want to get a degree in physics/astrophysics, and eventually i want work in computational physics.
Imagine you do all that, and you call that friend from 3 years ago, "sorry that i did not come to your birthday man"
– That is so cringry bro, get over it.
You quite literally described a similar process ive gone through with my OCD and a the guilt i feelt, and that las part of smaller to bigger task has helped me so much the last year
The word "SABOTAGE" implies INTENTION. The so called "self-sabotage" is subconscious, so the word "sabotage" is not the best in this case.
Hi all, and hey Dr K!
As a master self-sabotager I listened carefully and can’t wait to try the 3-things approach.
However, I’m wondering about the example about seeking/finding a relationship. Even though that dynamic often happens and is great…isn’t it kinda misleading within this context?
If I am to give the proverbial “utopia of becoming an astronaut”, it’s most likely to be in favour of more realistic dreams. So shouldn’t I learn to be ok with never becoming an astronaut -full stop?
I mean: with the celibate thing you’d still meet and talk to girls, but in the astronaut case you wouldn’t just casually and frequently happen to try joining Nasa…it’s just over
suchhhhhhhh a wonderful video. this really hit at a time i needed it most!
NOT DR K THE PICK UP ARTIST NOOOO lmaooo
Found your channel, thought you were just another Internet vlogger with a psych degree, and then you pulled out the hard-K with the accent and told us to give up on our dreams in order to unburden our minds (and release us from suffering). 🙏
You’re the real deal dude 👍
This video was really powerful for me. One topic that I’d love for Dr. K to cover is almost like the opposite of making amends: forgiving. I want to try the making amends thing, but I also feel ike a lot of my cognitive load comes from people who have really wronged me in the past, and despite trying I just can’t seem to forgive them/let that go. I’d love to Dr. K to give us some wisdom on that.
Damn. Good thing i havent had any dreams since the second year of univercity.
I love how he switches to Indian accent while saying karma
Hey, Dr. K. Could you please make a video on how the use of formal language affects interaction in informal contexts?
As someone on the Autism spectrum I often find myself using language that’s either too formal or informal for the context, and I think it’s affecting my dating life and how people perceive me in general. Perceiving me as rigid, overly intellectual, unapproachable, etc., or the opposite.
I think a large part of this community tends to be more on the logical/analytical side, so this topic I believe would be really helpful. Thanks
Not me. I just wait for it all to end.
GG NO RE haha
I recommend you to use subs. I think not many content creators are thoughtful about people that need subs for whatever reason, can be disabilities or just learning the language or whatever other reason why people need subs, it’s important that everyone has access to this kind of videos that I think are very valuable
Turn the bucket list into a f*ck it list
How can i control my gaming addiction? I don’t want to stop playing but I want to play a lot less. Is there a way yo do that? I know most people say you either go cold turkey or nothing but … I just like to play a bit
But what if I don’t have dreams and strong desires?
thank you big brother💗
This is one that I really needed to hear. As a very gifted kid who turned out to do nothing with his life, I’ve cumulated so many bad choices and missed opportunities that I spend most of my time thinking about regrets or things that I’d like to do but never end up doing either. I have like five different projects on the table but they’re stagnating because I spend more energy thinking about 10 other project ideas…
This is the reason why I wanted to be an art director, I’m pretty good at finding ideas and articulating concepts but I never end up bringing them to life just like I didn’t even try to get into school because there are at least five career paths that I’m interested in and can’t bring myself to choose. So instead I just work shit job after shit job, take drugs, watch anime, masturbate too much and get older. GG.
So, incomplete karma = pending task that weighs our mind down. My question is how do you let go? I tried to let go of a goal "rekindle relationship with former high school classmates" and internally, I couldn’t let go for some reason.
Needed to hear this. had a period 5 months ago when i worked on this and came to the conclusion that i hope i have been checking off enough, but i’m still bothered- more work to be done.
Can you do a video about starting meditation and your emotions and thoughts get worse??
The man!!
You are my new background listening while gaming.
I watched this video last night, and I started taking action for the things that I felt like its important. I felt free yesterday, but today I’m doubting myself again. It feels weird, because I knew I had to apologize to a few people, and I know now how they feel about me. I know deep down I wanted their friendship back, but it’s just not going to happen. I am not fine with this, but this time I’ll accept that I did what I did, and did what I could to them.
Solid video sir!
This seems a lot like Dr. Petersons past authoring program but seems way more practical
Dr. K’s dream to become a telemarketer: "If it worked for me, it’ll work for you!" 🤣
Just kidding – I just liked how cliché that sounded at the end…
There’s a lot of useful stuff in this discussion!
I hate the buzzfield style of the first minute. I appreciate what Dr. K is doing, but I’m clicking off this video in the first minute.
Just realized how much the word actually is actually being used 😅
I misread the title as "How to Stop Sabotaging Your Furniture" and felt called out. I’m clumsy and often bump into my furniture. XD
The thumbnail made me chuckle and then realise that’s exactly what I do to myself 😔
If you want to up your life, stop watching this guys videos. Completely useless tbh, you know what to do.
I Found the 1 5 20 method to be a real good simple process to follow and it actually works in stopping my endless procrastination because all the tasks together seem too overwhelming
Could I just put a dream on hold as apposed to letting it go? Just clarify the ones I want now?
Jeez, this video made me realize that I don’t have ANY dreams at all. I don’t know how to effectively use this video honestly. Thanks Dr K either way – your videos always make me feel better.
A man without ambition is like a fish without a bicycle.
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GG, no Re. Wp.